3 Statements Relational Youth Ministry Makes

Josh on October 14th, 2009

Relational youth ministry is what we strive for in our high school ministry – and here are 3 things that relational youth ministry says from a small group leader to a student:

“I care.”
Simply put – when you make a step to connect with a student screams how much you care. In a teenage world of too-busy parents, virtual friendships and fast-paced relationships, your efforts to develop a relationship with them shows how deeply you care for them. Every minute you spend with them, every text you send, every time you show up – they speak volumes without a spoken word.

“You matter to me.”
Your small group is a fraction of the whole ministry – but your 8 students are loved and cared for – and known. When they walk into a church service, like you, they are one of many. When they walk into a home, they are greeted and loved by name – because they matter.

“I’m proud of you.”
Some of the most powerful words you can say to a student is, “I’m proud of you.” Someone other than their parent taking a genuine interest in their life can give them confidence like never before. A sense of belief, not just in themselves, but from someone else can be empowering – even life-changing – for a student. You breathe these words every time you build a relationship with them.

What else does it say to your student?

JG

Free Resources at Simply

Josh on October 13th, 2009

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Sweet sale at SYM for the next 8 days – spend $125 and get 3 free resources thrown in the box. Lots of good stuff over there to check out!

JG

Relational Small Group Youth Ministry

Josh on October 13th, 2009

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This week in our small group training my goal was to emphasize the culture of relational youth ministry. Ryanne (volunteer coordinator) and I started with agreeing on a definition first:

Relational Youth Ministry is any step toward building a relationship with a student in your small group. It could be big, it could be small – either way, it is an effort toward truly living in community and sharing life together.

I want our ministry to be known for this! I want our students known, loved and cared for. It all takes time – but not as much as you might think. You went to a students’ water polo game? Amazing. You couldn’t make it to the game, but sent them a text asking if they won or not? Still incredible. You thought about them, or prayed for them while they played? I’ll take it! Leaders this week talked about simple ways they connected with students – from road trips to camp outs, from birthday parties to a “good luck on the SAT” text. All make a difference and build relationship.

Too often we default to the big ideas and instead should be happy with any and all steps. Some weeks they’ll be huge steps. Some weeks, small. Some – even backward. As a small group leader, commit to relational youth ministry and build community with the students God has entrusted to you!

At the end of the training, we gave out Make Their Day, a resource from Simply Youth Ministry/Group that helps give leaders ideas to affirm and connect with the kids in their small groups. Fun night!

JG

I’m Broken Spoken Word

Josh on October 13th, 2009

Here’s the I’m broken spoken word piece on forgiveness from this weekend, written and performed by students.

JG

HSM Weekend in Review: Volume 69

Josh on October 13th, 2009

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Weekend Teaching Series: Happy: Week 4
Sermon Title: Forgive … but don’t Forget
Sermon in a Sentence: The road to happiness is paved with forgiveness.
Service Length: 77 minutes
Bible: Matthew 5:9 (NCV)

Understandable Message: This weekend Doug Fields hit it out of the park with a powerful talk on peacemaking through forgiveness. He had a tons of stories, illustrations and played a perfect clip from Billy Madison. Doug taught Saturday night because of a Sunday commitment, so when the projector bulb burned out just before the talk started … well, chaos. Incredible message!

Volunteer/Student Involvement: Students really went the extra mile this weekend. In addition to camera, lights, sound, band control room and greeting, students performed an awesome dramatic reading at the end of the service (video of it soon, called I’m Broken). Another student shared her testimony on forgiveness, and another helped me co-host the Family Feud game. Amazing weekend of serving!

Element of Fun/Positive Environment: We played one round of Family Feud answering the question – what makes you happy? The top 7 answers were on the board, and we got the answers by sending out a Simply Text earlier in the week and compiling the results. So fun! When I was at McDonald’s this week, I noticed the McNugget box said “4 McNuggets: an Excellent Source of Happiness” so we “tested out the idea” and gave everyone a McNugget to eat as well. Total chaos, total blast. We also played our 4th PSA and a sweet video about God’s forgiveness, too.

Music Playlist: Your Name High, Happy Day, Tear Down the Walls

Favorite Moment: I loved it all! One of my favorite weekends ever …

Up Next: Happy – Week 5

UPDATE: Forgot to let you grab the program sheet if you’re interested.

HSM Family Feud

Josh on October 13th, 2009

This weekend we played HSM Family Feud, and one of our volunteers scored us another cool element on screen. We got the responses to the question from sending out a SimplyText and counted up the replies! You can download it here, and the controls are as follows:

  • Space Bar: Takes you from the logo to the game board.
  • Space Bar again: Takes you back to the logo
  • Q: Displays the question
  • 1-7: Displays the corresponding answer
  • Z, X, C: Displays either X, XX, or XXX for wrong answers
  • R: Resets the board

JG

Need a Youth Ministry Website? SnapShotWeb!

Josh on October 13th, 2009

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Simply Youth Ministry has relaunched SnapShotWeb.com this week – youth ministry websites quick and cheap. Through October 15, get a free Pick 6 from SYM (a $150 value) when you sign up for a new site. Check it out and see if it will meet your needs!

JG

GUEST POST: Intentionally Illustrating

Josh on October 11th, 2009

Josh Pease is former member of Saddleback’s high school team and recently wrote a great article about how to create and use good illustrations in a message. I thought he had some really good insights, so I’ve posted the entire article below with his permission. Josh now makes his living as a writer and speaker, and I happen to know that he’s still booking dates for the fall/winter. So if you’re looking to bring in a retreat or camp speaker for your students, I highly recommend checking him out today.

We’ve all been there …

You’re sitting at your desk /home office/Starbucks/the bathroom and you’re working on that week’s talk. But the longer you work on it, the more panicked you get at how … how … boring it seems. And that’s when it hits you.

The illustration.

The perfect story, or memorable moment, or video clip.

For me there’s nothing better than one of these “light bulb” moments. It makes me feel like I’m teaching an ancient message in a brand new way (because I’m pretty sure St. Augustine of Hippo never wore a chicken suit on stage to illustrate the doctrine of atonement! … of course he was from Hippo  which is funny, but I’m digressing here.)

The truth is though that while illustrations ARE powerful, that power can work both ways. It can cement a spiritual message in a student’s mind for years … or it can just confuse them. It can power your talk through to the end … or derail it.

So how do we choose good illustrations? Here are four basic rules I’m learning.

1)      Never, ever, ever let the “color” preempt the core.

Have you ever watched a sports game where the color commentator kept stepping on the play-by-play guys’ toes? If so, then you know how frustrating it is when the flow of a presentation gets sabotaged by “creativity.”

The truth is that most (not all of us, but most) youth pastors have two traits in common: 1) we’re a bit ADD, and 2) we think in pictures and analogies (because words are boring!). But I’ve found it helpful to force myself to identify the one thing the text is saying – the one thing I want to communicate – before I let any illustration enter my mind. Until I find that one thing, every other idea is in the scrap heap. Otherwise I start preaching the story rather than Scripture.

2)      Be ruthless in choosing illustrations.

Most of us have probably heard that we need to reengage with a teenage audience every 5-8 minutes of a talk. But sometimes this leads to taking the easy way out: we show a video, or tell a story, or use a funny picture that really doesn’t illustrate the point at all, but it makes us feel better about “connecting with our audience.”

But it’s possible to engage the audience while still protecting the idea – if we’re willing to fight laziness. Be ruthless in finding the perfect illustration, not the easy or cool one. Don’t settle for your first idea, if you know your first idea isn’t great.

A great example of this was something Josh Griffin did a few months ago, when he shattered a mirror with a hammer on stage. It was unexpected. It was ear-crunchingly loud. And I could tell you the exact point it made (realizing our true identity) months later. THAT’S a good illustration.

3)      Create cheese accountability.

There are two kinds of people in the world: those who know something’s cheesy, and those who don’t. The problem is cheesy people (of whom I am sometimes chief) rarely know they are cheesy. But your students do, guaranteed.

Which means this – bounce your illustrations off of people with good instincts who won’t worry about protecting your feelings. Maybe it’s a volunteer or a fellow staff member or core student in your ministry. Just don’t create illustrations in a vacuum. Because we all occasionally have bad ideas that we don’t know are bad.

4)      Don’t be the hero of your own stories.

I recently was watching a phenomenal speaker who had great content, good delivery and a clear presentation. But there was one problem: it seemed like all his stories involved him being the smart/funny/right one. And it was a huge turn-off for me. Afterwards I heard people comment that they liked what he had to say, but that he seemed a little arrogant.

The point: be willing to be the goat, not the hero, in your stories. Whenever we’re willing to make fun of ourselves two things happen: 1) we give our students permission to struggle along with us and 2) we avoid appearing arrogant, which as we all know is the #1 way to make students tune out.

Now these four points are by no means the only thing to say, so I’d love to hear your personal learnings in the comment section below – call this an immediate application of point 3. But the most important thing is that we all continually improve in this area, because the better we are at intentionally illustrating, the clearer God’s voice becomes to our students.

Happy Series PSA Video #4

Josh on October 10th, 2009

Another video in our HAPPY series … just 2 more weeks to go!

JG

Angels 4, Red Socks 1

Josh on October 10th, 2009

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Got the chance to go to a great post-season baseball game this weekend – Friday night we enjoyed some great seats to watch history as the Angels march toward the World Series. Rally Monkey!

JG

Gamerscore Races Past 29,000

Josh on October 10th, 2009

Been getting in some late-night HALO: ODST in – resulting in the breaking of another Gamerscore milestone. I’ve now accumulated over 29,000 points so far, despite playing only a little in the super busy youth ministry fall. So fun!

JG

HAPPY Series Forgiveness Video

Josh on October 10th, 2009

Here’s a video on forgiveness used this weekend during our HAPPY beatitudes series. Thanks to killer volunteer Parker for cranking this one out – what a stud!

JG

GUEST POST: Open Source Leadership

Josh on October 10th, 2009

As part of the whole ‘who has God created me to be, what are my strengths, weaknesses, gifts, personality, etc’ process I’ve been thinking about my leadership style. Every leader has a mix of styles, but usually tend towards one.

Some are bosses, some are managers, some are coaches, some are bureaucrats, some are politicians, some are directors, some are dictators, some are servants. These aren’t just titles, they’re also leadership styles. For example, a boss leads from the top and gives directions, instructions and orders so that the job gets done.

I heard about a new leadership style recently called: Open Source Leadership. I think it fits me well.

Open source is the idea behind Wikipedia. Someone, or a group of people, have created a platform so that hundreds of thousands of other people can build on it and add information:

Wikipedia is a free encyclopedia, written collaboratively by its readers. It is a special type of website designed to make collaboration easy, called a wiki. Many people are constantly improving Wikipedia, making thousands of changes per hour.

The leaders of Wikipedia provide support, encouragement, correction, and management of the website…but they don’t create much of the written content.

I think my style of leadership, the model I work best with is Open Source Leadership. I might lead in many different ways, but I most often lead in this way:

  • Making space for others to serve and lead.
  • Encouraging others to grow and stretch and change.
  • Making space for mistakes and failure.
  • Encouraging new ideas.
  • Stirring up and guiding passion.
  • Guiding others back when they head off track.
  • Keeping the vision out in front & Jesus as the top priority.
  • Releasing control, and keeping accountability
  • Helping people work together towards their common goal.

I don’t always do it well, but this is what I love:
helping other people maximise their potential
so that the Kingdom of God invades
the whole world through us

Geoff works with youth in his local church and blogs at Reflections of a Snook.

HSM Teaching Calendar 2009-10

Josh on October 9th, 2009

Here’s the HSM teaching calender for the next 5 months. Titles are subject to change, but this will give you an idea of where we’re going this next season:

November
POVERTY – Operation Christmas Child
POVERTY – Kenya
POVERTY – feed my starving children
1-off Message – STORIES

December
Christmas Series Week 1
Christmas Series Week 2
No services (Christmas)
Combined services with Wildside

January
Discipleship Series Week 1
Discipleship Series Week 2
Discipleship Series Week 3
The Sex
The Sex

February
The Sex
Apologetics
Apologetics
Apologetics

March
You Own the Weekend: Freshman
You Own the Weekend: Sophomores
You Own the Weekend: Juniors
You Own the Weekend: Seniors

JG

Reply to Tormented Youth Pastor

Josh on October 9th, 2009

Got an email from “Tormented Youth Pastor” this week. Thought I would post the reply even though you don’t know the question:

Well … from your email, I’d say you already have a strong leaning to leave, but figured I’d chime in anyhow. Here’s what I think:

First off … Leaving a church is one of the most difficult decisions you’ll ever make. Take your time with it, and be sure not to process out loud too much. The church has made up their mind, and they are sticking behind him. Any less and you’ll be seen as divisive. Walk carefully here.

It sounds like you’re confident that the pastor is wrong and the elders are wrong, so following them as leaders will be challenging to say the least. Not respecting the leadership undermines your heart there and chips away at your desire to serve. You’ll have trouble staying positive and not taking little shots at them soon. No wonder you’re struggling! I wish this was less common so hang in there.

Here’s the problem – it IS greener on the other side of the fence but at 4 years you’re just getting to the good stuff. Plus you don’t really feel called **away** from your ministry – I’d much rather you have the confidence to know your supposed to be gone as opposed to called **to** another church. To me, there’s a huge difference.

I would walk through this time as a church and when the dust settles as God gives you peace to leave … Then do just that. I’m not convinced now is the time, but probably soon?

Praying for you as I type this.

JG

Happy Series PSA Video #2

Josh on October 8th, 2009

Another in the series of HAPPY Public Service Announcement (PSA) videos during our Happy series.

JG

4 Responses When a Student Shares a Need

Josh on October 8th, 2009

When a student in your small group opens up and shares a secret or a sin, for many leaders there’s an instant tendancy to freak out or respond negtively. Here’s 4 quick actions to take (adapted from some HSM training stuff) when you first hear the news:

Calm Down
Don’t panic – set aside your own feelings and and shock and try to make some clear-headed judgements. Stay calm … you can do this. In a weird way, this is what you

Be There
Don’t let a confession spur you to leave this person behind – unintentionally on accident or intentionally because you’re not sure how to handle it. Make sure you follow-up with the student as soon as possible, they will regret sharing their secret with you and second guess opening up to you in the future.

Go to God
Pray, pray, pray. Never underestimate the power of God to work in this situation. Ask Him to reveal what to do and say, and that he would heal the people involved.

Team Up
You are not alone in this – when a student finally revealed their big secret, they probably felt alone. Now that you are carrying it, look to your coach or fellow youth worker to carry the load together.

JG

Leadership Killers: Fear and Insecurity

Josh on October 7th, 2009

Loved a new series of blog posts Matt McGill is posting over on Abnormalize. His latest Leadership Killer on fear and insecurity is strong. Here’s a clip, be sure to make his site one of your daily stops:

LET GO. Surrender your need to control everything around you. Imagine your fear as a lack of faith in believing that God is in control. Fear denies God his sovereignty.

HOLD ON. Remember your identity as a creation of the Father, the reason for Christ’s sacrifice, the temple of the Holy Spirit. Acknowledge the wonder: you were made to be great, you were saved to be great, you are empowered to do great things. Don’t deny the ability of the Creator, the work of the Savior, we or the power of Comforter. Insecurity denies the works of God.

JG

Life Hurts, God Heals: Renee

Josh on October 7th, 2009

Another video (2 of 2, see Nathan’s story here) video promoting Life’s Healing Choices campaign [HAPPY is our student version]. Would work great with Life Hurts, God Heals groups for sure.

JG