Josh GriffinMore PostsTOP 3: Epic Fails in Youth Ministry

This month we’re introducing a new series here on the Simply Youth Ministry Today newsletter. It is called Top 3 and we’re kicking off this week with our Top 3 epic youth ministry fails. Thought you would like that one!

1) Every so often we play a video clip as part of the message and in one particularly tragic service we played the video clip a team member had made for me (Josh). Like an idiot I hadn’t previewed the clip from Tommy Boy and the very last sentence of the excerpt involved a joke about the size of the guys…sailboat. Needless to say, it would go on to be one of my most epic fails of all time. I ended the message with, “It sure has been great being your pastor.” Hahahah!

2) I (Kurt) was a 22-year-old rookie junior high pastor on my way to a youth group New Year’s Eve party with a carload of kids. I happened to have surf racks on my car and one of the 8th grade boys happened to be highly adventurous…which turned out to be a bad combination. I pulled over, strapped the student into my surf racks, and proceeded to drive 5 miles through town to the party. Luckily it was before the days of cell phones, Instagram, and every move being instantaneously captured. Other than a fairly harsh tongue lashing from the high school pastor (why do they always think they’re so much more spiritual?), there was no damage done.

3) To make a long story short: I (Kurt) was on staff at Saddleback for one month when I accidentally left a student in the stadium after an Arena Football League game. I counted…just not accurately.

This post was written by Josh Griffin and Kurt Johnston and originally appeared as part of Simply Youth Ministry Today free newsletter. Subscribe to SYM Today right here.

Josh GriffinMore PostsGUEST POST: How to Dream Big

After my first year in ministry my church staff went on a retreat to do some vision casting and team building.  During our time together the question was asked, “Where do you see your ministry in five years?”  It’s a question many of us have heard before from teachers, and interviewers.  It encourages us to think big, because no one wants to say, “I see myself doing the same thing as now.”  It just doesn’t sound attractive or cool.  When you hear that question you want to respond with something big.  I did, I responded, “I want us to have our own youth building.”  It’s a pretty bold goal considering a building would mean that I would need hundreds of teens to fill it, the staff to run it and at the time our entire church staff was only 4 people.  7 years later and we still share space with the children’s ministry.

Most of us want to answer that question with something big; however, we are afraid that it might not happen or that people will mock it.  On top of our fears our big dreams don’t come true because we don’t:

Give It To God:  You need Him to guide you, direct you and show you where to make the bold moves.  You need Him to give you the people and resources.  You need Him to pick you up when you fail.  Give your dreams to God and allow Him to tell you whether or not it is going to come true.  And if it doesn’t He’s got something bigger for you.

Make Failure An Option – When dreaming big, know that there is a slight chance that things will either not go according to plan or not happen at all.  Dreaming big isn’t about being foolish it’s about realizing that God is in control.  It’s about figuring out what you are truly capable of doing when allowing God to lead you.

Write It Down And Revisit Later – Most dreams are lost because they aren’t written down.  We sometimes consider those dreams no important because if they were we would have remembered them.  The truth is that sometimes are dreams need to mature and if we don’t write them down we will never have the opportunity to revisit them with a new perspective and a little more wisdom.

Speak It And Believe It – A lot of dreams die in vain.  We are too ashamed, nervous or embarrassed to share them and because they never see the light of day they wither and die.  Dreams that are spoken are given life, because your dreams aren’t always going to be accomplished by just you.  When someone hears your dream of a bigger building, more small group leaders, or life change they might see the solution.  The more speak a dream, the more we believe it and the more others will embrace it.

You make big dreams happen by offering them up to God, allowing failure, revisiting it and sharing.  But above all else include God because everything is possible with Him.  Again dreaming is how we help hurting kids, it’s how we commission youth into the world and it’s how we build His kingdom.

What else should we do in order to dream big?

Chris Wesley is the Director of Student Ministry at Church of the Nativity in Timonium, MD. You can read more about his blog Marathon Youth Ministry.

Josh GriffinMore PostsGod is Working in Your Youth Ministry

If you started to wonder this week … yes, God is still at your youth group.

God’s Spirit isn’t done quite yet in your church and in your life — even if it feels like it sometimes. I’m just about to cross 2,000 youth services I’ve played some part in — and I’m so grateful to know that God is working even when……

  • ProPresenter crashes in the middle of your message and at the worst possible moment
  • Your worship lyrics are riddled with misspeellings (<– I left that one in for you)
  • That funny game left a permanent stain in the old sanctuary carpet
  • You thought for sure the movie clip didn’t have THAT word in it
  • You were outnumbered at an event when your volunteers flaked out
  • There is a distinct odor in the church van that may never come out
  • Your small group was so out of control you feel the need to offer to repaint the host home’s family room
  • The tears from that student after your message … were because her boyfriend just broke up with her
  • The sermon you thought would be a homerun was a bunt at best

If it all goes wrong, if your talk tanks, if you feel that your youth ministry isn’t working … rest assured: It isn’t working. But God is.

God loves to show up when we’re down. He seems to specialize in being very present when He seems so absent. He’s there … He’s changing your students one botched program at a time. When your mission trip has an epic fail or your small group has a night (or several nights) of endless blunders … know that God is up to something big and your best attempts to stop him won’t work. He is working in spite of you, to see your students transformed.

JG

Josh GriffinMore PostsGUEST POST: I’ve Failed As a Youth Pastor

I’ve FAILED as a youth pastor…

… if I put the ministry ahead of my relationship with God.

… if I put the ministry ahead of my relationship with my wife and family.

… if don’t invest in meaningful friendships outside of youth ministry and/or the church.

… if I don’t continually work to grow closer to my Creator.

… if I allow my identity to be found in my work.

… if I allow the numbers to discourage me OR make me feel good about myself.

… if I become jaded toward the church because of envy or pride.

… if I allow people’s view of me get in the way of God’s view of me.

… if I allow how the church/leadership values me to define my worth.

… if I am not a disciple AND a disciple maker.

… if I constantly look beyond student ministry toward “the next big thing.”

… if students feel like numbers and not individuals.

… if the work I’m doing “for” God doesn’t align with God’s desire for me or the ministry.

I’m sure there are others we need to be aware of as pastors/leaders/volunteers. Any others that come to mind?

Steve Ingold is the High School Director at Cornerstone Fellowship in the California Bay Area. Check him out on Twitter or read his blog.

Josh GriffinMore Posts3 Leadership Lessons I’m Learning This Season

Been learning quite a bit lately about youth ministry in the trenches here at Saddleback – here are 3 lessons I’ve known for a while but seem be be hitting me hard these days:

Never be OK with OK.
When you are coasting you are slowing down, just not admitting it. I’m not by any means encouraging you to give up margin or a day off — I guess I’m admitting coming off a season marked by a little apathy in my heart. Which means I was OK with OK. Which isn’t OK.

Fix it or kill it.
If a program is limping along you have to fix it or put it down. God has gifted you as a leader with discernment, so use it and take time to evaluate where you’re at. Be decisive. With a few adjustments you can probably turn it around, and if there’s no hope be a strong enough leader to admit failure.

If everything is working perfectly, it won’t be for long.
This is the harsh reality of youth ministry — it will never be fully dialed in. Just when you think you’ve got it all together, it comes crashing down. It seems like health comes in cycles and when it starts to turn downward you have to re-up the commitment to your church and gear up for another tour of duty.

Would love to know what you’re learning about youth ministry right now – leave them in the comments!

JG