Josh GriffinMore PostsGUEST POST: Thinking Like a Parent at Summer Camp

I love hanging out at camp and want these students to feel like this is a special place where they are free from expectations, peer pressure, or distractions (Xbox or cell phones). But while I want them to feel free to do a lot of fun and amazing things, I think a couple of times the volunteers and myself need to stand up and say no. Here are three that happened at middle school camp that I have shared with my volunteers:

Don’t Cut Girls Hair
Since we keep different cabins for the boys and girls, after 9PM I have little control over what happens in their cabin. So I received a surprise when the girls came up and each had a new haircut. At the time I chalked it up to crazy girl time that I did not understand, but when the parents saw it after we got home, I received an ear full. Apparently one of the girl’s felt pressured to do it and hated the results. At that point, it did not matter that she rededicated her life or really made some amazing connections.

Make Sure They Eat
It was not reported to us that one girl was anorexic, but at the beginning of camp she was not eating much of her meals. After sitting down with her and having he promise to eat, it did not become a problem the rest of the year. It really was not a big deal until her parents talked with us after camp. Apparently, our encouragement and non-judgmental attitudes completely removed her doubt of self-worth. Those few days back, she ate more at family meals without putting up a fight than she had in years.

Support The Parents
A lot of junk comes out at camp, in cabin time and one-on-one’s. Some of the time, those conversations lead to how much they do not feel loved by their parents or that they wish thy were around more. This is not the time to give false hope, but we want to support an uphold the family. Reminding them of good memories, love even in busyness, and sharing in what could be after camp is a perfect way to honor the parents.

Jeremy Smith is a 26-year old youth pastor at the Air Force Academy chapel, working for Club Beyond, and attending Denver Seminary for his Master”s of Arts in Counseling Ministries. He has been involved in Youth for Christ for eight years — check out his blog at Seventy8Productions.

Josh GriffinMore PostsGUEST POST: Professional Development Avoidance

A few weeks back I was sitting down with the director of Youth Ministry at the college I am going to be teaching at and he was telling me that Duffy Robbins himself was going to be coming in October to do a one week intensive course which amounts to much of the content that him and Doug Fields teach in their speaking to teenagers series.

I couldn’t believe it, Duffy is coming to the college, for a week in a class of only forty students, to which I replied what most people would ask, “can I sit in on the class?” I mean after all, this is a tremendous opportunity to hear from a great mind in YM and I ask a lot of questions so this is going to be great. He said of course I could attend, and I asked could I invite some of my youth pastor friends from the area to which he replied with something I did not expect.

He replied by basically saying that he had offered in the past and none would come because many Youth Pastors are only interested in professional development if it means traveling to a conference on the Church’s budget. I’ll be honest, I don’t completely disagree, I recently went to a training event that advertised $5 for youth leader training, and it that cost included all course materials, a thumb drive, a keychain and a speaker flown into town. I packed up our team and got there to find a total attendance 30 people in the auditorium of a church that held 1200. The event was well advertised and lots of calls were made, but no one showed up.

The brightest people I know in the youth ministry world are the ones that read the most, and take every opportunity to learn more and if we are serious about growing as leaders its starts with saying I don’t know it all. There is so much quality training out there, take advantage of it.

Geoff Stewart is the Pastor of Jr & Sr High School for Journey Student Ministries at Peace Portal Alliance Church and regularly contributes GUEST POSTS to MTDB. Be sure to check out his Twitter stream for awesome ministry goodness. Want to get in on the fun and write up a guest post yourself? See how right here.

Josh GriffinMore PostsSimply Youth Ministry Best-Sellers 2011!


Couldn’t be more excited to see that 4 resources of mine made it into the best-seller list from Simply Youth Ministry this year. I think I’m most proud of 99 Thoughts for Small Group Leaders with Doug Fields, and The Way I’m Wired with Katie Brazelton. If you’ve used any resources we created this year – thank you so much – I hope they’ve been helpful!

JG

Josh GriffinMore PostsGroup Magazine Live: Sexual Sin

Group Magazine is hosting a new LIVE online event for youth workers this Thursday June 21, 2011 at 8am Pacific that will be hosted on SimplyYouthMinistry.tv. Several great people will be there, including Craig Gross of xxxchurch.com. I know summer is a crazy time for youth workers (I’m out of town and will miss it!) but if you can it will be great – RSVP on Facebook right here.

We here at Group Magazine decided to do something we’d never done before: a theme issue. And the thematic elephant in the room that no one is talking about is sexual sin. So we’re dragging that elephant–kicking and bellowing–into the light where we can deal with it. The articles on this page each tackle a different aspect of sexual sin. Hope to see you there!

JG

Josh GriffinMore PostsHow to Be Intentional as a Summer Camp Leader

Was talking with AC from our team about summer camp training the week after next, and he showed me some cool stuff he’s been working on to give our cabin counselors and volunteers. Here’s some of what we’ll be training our volunteers on soon, maybe it will be useful to your leaders, too! Most of it is original stuff, except for the crisis part at the end which he adapted from something online.

Cabin Time — Be Intentional
We want the students to feel a sense of community within this group. Going to a camp with so many students can feel super intimidating. So making your group a camp within summer camp creates a great feeling of community and togetherness amongst the students in your group. The more time your group can send time doing things together the better.

Here are some ways to create community within your small group:

  • Eating meals together
  • Doing a few, fun free time activities as a group
  • Doing one or two breakout sessions together, and debriefing at lunch or dinner about it.

Debrief –Be Intentional
Debriefs are a must. Each night your group will be asked to go and talk about the message after each general session. You will also be given a handout that will help you guide debrief. To enrich debrief even more take notes so you can really dig into what the message was about and how they can apply it to their lives.

Your group will be made up of different students at different stages in their faith and some with no faith. The message needs to be unpacked and discussed. This is a time where the message can get super practical and unpacked for each student. This is a time where they will share their thoughts about the message and how they feel it actually applies to them. So this time is very important time for your students in the overall camp experience.

Feel free to create rules for your cabin time. Especially rules during discussion time. Making sure your students are being respectful to one another is huge in creating a safe environment. Students need to be able to share what’s on their hearts without fear of judgment.

Student in Crisis – Be Intentional
There is a chance out of all the students that are going to camp that there will be some students going through a crisis. So here is some info for you in the event you are approached from a student in crisis. A crisis for them could be anything from a bad break up to thoughts of suicide.

You may be the first or last person to whom the student will tell their problems too. Accept the opportunity to be there for that student as a privilege and honor. Give your full attention to the conversation, say a quick prayer for guidance, and refer when necessary to Phil. Accept the opportunity to be there for that student as a privilege and honor. Ministering to that student during a time of crisis will make a life changing difference.

  • Listen- Listen to students’ pain, hurt, confusion, words, and non-verbal expressions of loss or agony. When we listen, we are more able to learn about what is really going on.
  • Talk-When a student shares a problem with you or sits (or stands) in front of you, they are probably waiting for a response. Avoid clich

Josh GriffinMore PostsGUEST POST: Setting Up Your Volunteers For Success

Our ministry at USAFA Club Beyond relies heavily on its volunteers and so there is a deep need to help set them up for success. Here are three things we do to ensure we achieve it.

Empower them. Training is one of the fundamental parts of a great team. Whether you have a group of veteran volunteers or first-timers to youth ministry, everyone can benefit from training. A single yearly training is not enough nor are one hour monthly events. The single, longer session is perfect for vision casting, youth ministry 101, and the overall mission of the youth group. At the same time, monthly meetings are perfect for Q&A from struggling volunteers, tweaking skills, and going over future curriculum. We incorporate both and find that they appreciate all of it.

Equip them. This includes a thorough and purposeful curriculum, a four or six month calendar of events, and all of the necessary equipment. Their job is not to come up with the questions or the lesson (though several of them are great at it and I ask for insight when writing up the curriculum). On their best nights, they stick to the core of the curriculum but follow the discussion of what the students bring up, asking different questions and using other illustrations than what is printed. But when life gets hard, they have a terrible day at work before youth group, or get into an argument with a family member, now they are not coming to club at 100%. This is when preparation key to providing success.

Encourage them. Sure our title is youth worker but at least 30% of our time is invested in adults like our volunteers and so we must make a point to focus on them too. Many of them are hurting just as much as our students but they have figured out how to cope. We need to minister to them in their successes, failures, mistakes, and accomplishments. So if a student is giving them a hard time or they are going through a crisis, buy them a Starbucks and give them an hour or two of your time to be a sounding board or help bear their burdens.

Jeremy Smith is a 26-year old youth pastor at the Air Force Academy chapel, working for Club Beyond, and attending Denver Seminary for his Master”s of Arts in Counseling Ministries. He has been involved in Youth for Christ for eight years and absolutely loves sharing the life of Jesus with teens. Check out his blog at Seventy8Productions.

Josh GriffinMore PostsThe Youth Ministry Volunteer Process: Part 2

Yesterday I posted part 1 of our volunteer process in our high school ministry – here’s the second half of the process from start to finish. Let me know if there’s anything that needs clarifying in the comments!

Train
Leader training is a critical and ongoing step in the process, our very best leaders attend small group leader training each year, even as veterans. We regularly give away little books or resources, encourage them with a video or note and even make sure they have ongoing training in their hands every few months.

Care
When there is a crisis in the life of one of our leaders, we are there. Flowers for a death in the family, a visit if they’re in the hospital, prayer over a family crisis – I am a pastor to pastors – and these amazing volunteers are our front line ministers so I need to give them focus, love and care.

Encourage
Be a cheerleader.

Remove
Occasionally you may have to remove a leader. Every year so far we’ve had to deal with the messiness of ministry specifically with volunteers. It may be a personal issue, a doctrinal issue or something to do with lifestyle. Either way, I have to take care of it as it is part of our process. My least favorite one on this list but a necessary evil.

Celebrate
We have some superstar leaders, and when they’re run is over we celebrate. Maybe it is as simple as a note or movie tickets, other times it is dinner at a nice restaurant. Take time to love them our the door if they finish well.

JG

Josh GriffinMore PostsSimply Youth Ministry Conference – Louisville, Kentucky – March 2-5, 2012

Couldn’t make it to the Simply Youth Ministry Conference 2011? Here’s the dates and location of SYMC 2012! Hope to see you there!

JG