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Teens these days are inundated with messages about sex, our culture is saturated with commercials that have sexual innuendoes. You can barely turn the television on during prime time and not see scantily clad girls and guys targeting the high school and middle school students. Culture is screaming sexuality!
But on the other side of the coin I think the church in also not addressing the issue. What does the church say in response – Don’t have sex! And that is it – we don’t explain why, we don’t talk about the gift of sex or that having sex is an act of worship when in a marriage relationship. Because the church has avoided talking about the topic, our students are turning to the media to get their answers.
I am currently working part time for an organization called Expectations Women’s Center. I also with another woman are currently writing a curriculum to be used in Public Schools and in churches to educate the students on “The Sexy Truth” – the truth that sex is an amazingly wonderful thing – created with boundaries to protect us not to wreck our fun!
One thing we do is talk about the idea that the condom only protects the physical consequences of sex – however what is protecting the social, emotional, spiritual, and psycological aspects of sex. Our program is geared towards talking about the whole person and how sex effects each of those aspects.
Another thing that we spend a lot of time talking about is the idea of Bonding…did you know that the frontal cortex of your brain is not fully developed until someone is 25 years old. All the decisions that they make as a teenager are actually molding and shaping their brain to be patterned to hook up, then break up – check out the book “Hooked” it is a great resource to understand the brain chemistry!
I share this all, to let you know that we want our students to know that Sex is actually a wonderful thing – God made it, calls it an act of worship, it is meant to create intimacy with your spouse but also with God. It is not a horrible thing that we portray to our students in hopes that we will scare them away from sex until they are married.
As the church – we should be talking about healthy sex, we should be talking about the celebration of a marriage relationship, so we can attract people to a positive message, not a message of Don’t do this, don’t do that – our faith in God is about a relationship, not about the list of Don’t do this, Don’t do that – and that is what we want to promote in “The Sexy Truth” – sexy means attractive and we want to attract people to the Truth about Sex!
Jana Snyder wants you to check out www.thesexytruth.org or her blog www.tarajaministries.com.
actually, since i don’t have the website up yet…you should probably check out http://www.facebook.com/thesexytruth.
good stuff nonetheless.