Youth Workers Need to Learn to Say No

Josh on May 26th, 2009

Loved Seth Godin’s post this morning on saying no – remindes me of the powerful book that shaped my thinking – What Matters Most by Doug Fields. I don’t usually reprint an entire blog post from someone else, but this was too much gold to only excerpt:

If you’ve got talent, people want more of you. They ask you for this or that or the other thing. They ask nicely. They will benefit from the insight you can give them.

The choice: You can dissipate your gift by making the people with the loudest requests temporarily happy, or you can change the world by saying ‘no’ often.

You can say no with respect, you can say no promptly and you can say no with a lead to someone who might say yes. But just saying yes because you can’t bear the short-term pain of saying no is not going to help you do the work.

Saying no to loud people gives you the resources to say yes to important opportunities.

JG

Neal Benson at 7:03pm May 26

I needed to hear that so badly today!

Shawn K at 5:13pm December 15

I’m really bad at saying no, especially at Church. Trying to work on it though!